Beginning with Yvonne Rainers's score for 'Trio A' as a point of departure, this performative talk enacts Frasers "speaking with" methodology to examine and perform refusal as a method for feminist research and creative practices. Utilising the score, correspondence, and autofiction as forms of practice this presentation reflects on how artists come close with care to "speak with" practices, materials and subjectivities in order to enact refusal as method within art making and writing.